Separating From Family Issues
From the Book The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
"We can draw healthy boundaries and separate our selves from our families issues.
Some families have members that have addiction problems like drugs,food, alcohol, porn, and others also including addicted to misery, suffering, martyrdom, and victim mentality. We have family members that have unresolved issues of abuse from their past. We have to realize that we may be like our family but we are SEPARATE. We have separate choices. As humans we have rights. One of those rights is to feel better and recover wither or not other members of our family does not choose to do the same. We do not have to feel guilty about making that choice. Separating from their issue does not mean we do not love them it means we are free human beings. Often times when we make those choices our family member will manipulate us in trying to pull us back into their old systems and roles. Choosing not to get involved with their brokenness does not mean we do not love them. It means we are addressing our own issues.
Today I will separate myself from my families issues. I am a separate human being even though I am a part of a family unit. I have a right to my own issues and growth!"
"We feel so alone that we forget there is help. We tell ourselves that we have to do it all by ourselves.
God is there always ready to help. Take the risk of asking for help. We can call on the strength of our brothers and sisters in Christ and your recovery life groups.
There is no shortness of LOVE. You are not alone!
Today God help me give up the need to think I need to do this all by myself. Help me to tap into your divine power and presence. Open my eyes to see all the help, love and support that I need."
"If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life.A relationship is a continuation of life.
Each day we are faced with the prospect of functioning in several different relationships. Our goal is to behave in ways that demonstrate responsibility for ourselves. We have power to take care of our selves in all our relationships.We do not need to detach ourselves from people we have been trying to control. Recovery is not done apart from on another. Recovery is done by learning to own our power and to take care of ourselves in all relationships. I will ask for what I need and give what feels right."
Next Week We Will Talk About Dealing With Painful Feelings.