The Language Of Letting Go 4
Fear:
Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little course, and you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice? Up again; you shall never be so afraid of a tumble. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Fear can be a big stopper for many of us. Relax! Our best is good enough. It may be better than we think. Even our failures turn out to be important. Existing is easy. Feel the fear let it go. Jump in and do it.
Letting Go Of Guilt:
There's a good trick that a person who lives in dysfunctional relationships use'" The other person does something inappropriate or wrong then stands there until you feel guilty and end up saying sorry. A lot of time the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person acts inappropirate and violates our boundaries. We challenge their behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty. Guilt can stop us from taking good care of ourselves. We don't have to allow ourselves to be controlled by guilt.-earned or unearned. We are not at fault, crazy or wrong. We have a right to set boundaries.
Finding Balance:
The goal of recovery is balance. The precious middle ground. Many of us have gone to the extreme on one side or the other. Years of taking care of everyone but ourselves.We may have spent years refusing to feel, identify,and deal with our feelings.We can nurture the quiet confidence of owning our power as equals in our relationship with others. All from the Book The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
